June 29th, 2022

By Mateo Sol

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How We Lose Our Authenticity

Watching children play and hearing their genuine laughter is one of the greatest joys in life.

We were all born as children filled with life, a sense of wonder, and the desire to explore and live in the moment. Children have no past baggage or future anxieties so they express what they feel and aren’t afraid to love unconditionally.

After the age of 3, however, children start to become more tamed. This happens to all of us. Developmentally, something changes within us and we begin to lose that wonder, that innocence of childhood.

Our neocortex – or ‘thinking brain’ – grows stronger, and thus our thoughts become more dominant, putting our authentic feelings in the background. Slowly we begin to focus more on these thoughts, and in doing so, we begin to accumulate past baggage and future anxieties.

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The Fragmented Self

This new self-worth system forces us to change. It forces us to create a false image of ourselves, a dream.

Slowly we begin to notice that different people expect different things from us – our parents, our teachers, our friends, our priests, our bosses, our siblings, our lovers all want something specific from us – and so we are split up into dozens of different versions of ourselves.

We become so good at living up to these different images of ourselves that we forget who we really are.

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7 Signs You’re Connected With Your Authentic Self
Image of a yellow sunflower symbolic of the authentic self

We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.

– May Sarton

How many signs can you relate to?

You feel connected with the Divine/your Soul

You live a life aligned with your deepest needs and values

You regularly experience synchronicity

You understand your place/role in life

You’re purpose-driven

You’re not interested in “fitting in” with others

You have a high level of self-love and self-respect

These signs are only really the tip of the iceberg. Authenticity imbues every part of our life with richness, depth, and meaning.

If you struggle to relate to the above signs, don’t worry. We’re all conditioned to adopt a false self-image. It takes time, persistence, and dedication to uncover the jewel beneath the layers of falsity. That’s why I’m here writing this article: to help you excavate your deeper Self. So keep reading on!

Authentic Self and Spiritual Awakening

Link below!

About the author:

Mateo Sol is a spiritual counselor, bibliophile, entrepreneur, and cofounder of one of the most influential and widely read spiritual websites on the internet. Born into a family with a history of drug addiction and mental illness, he was taught about the plight of the human condition from a young age. His mission is to help others experience freedom, wholeness, and peace in all stages of life. See more of his work at lonerwolf.com